Lilacs
I won’t lie, often times I do get caught up in the myth, the myth of what you expect love to be.
Have I ever loved?
I wont say.
Am I in love now?
I wont tell.
Do I know what it is like to be loved?
I wont lie.
Love, it comes in various forms and we tend to deny it. The love that appears when a mother holds her baby for the first time, the love that is displayed when two friends have each other’s back no matter what, the love that is created with a stranger that spontaneously found his or her way into your life and leaves you smiling.
See this word love,
Love,
L.O.V.E,
Learning Often to Vow Eagerly.
It is not what we expect it to be, chocolate and flowers, cute face, tall, dark and handsome, thick thighs, full lips, dazzling eyes, play house, dress up and eat out, white dress, diamond ring, vacations with white sand, make babies, and as I would like to say have your Bill Cosby Show ending.
Love is not what we expect it to be.
Yes we often get distracted by what society perceives it to be. Hence end up being distracted by the guy with the cute pictures on Instagram or the girl with the most posts on Snapchat.
We want Power Couple.
So we have a criterion.
But will love come in that form?
And if it does not will we bash it and disapprove.
See I learn something recently.
We always want roses because of what we perceive roses to represent. But the lilacs smell 10 times better. So if the lilacs smell better, then why do we still prefer the roses? Why is it that the roses are what we go for first when both are on display? Why can’t we see the beauty in the lilacs? Could it be their petals are too small? Could such a small thing have such a great smell?
We choose to love whatever we perceive love to be.
But what if love isn’t as you had perceived it?
What if it’s not the Bill Cosby Show?
What if it’s the Martin Lawrence Show?
What if you’re Mr. Sheffield and she’s The Nanny?
What if it’s Coocious, a Cookie and Lucious type of love?
The fact is we never know where we will find love, but you must be open to love. Love will not be all smiles and blushes. The pathway will not be an easy one. There may be holes and craters, landslides and breakaways, but if you are open to love you will love and experience such a beautiful emotion.
Not everyone you love will return the gesture; they may not be your bunch of lilacs. This does not mean you should close your heart to love. Hunny, doing that will only make you bitter. Have a heart always ready to receive and give love.
But remember always, the love that you will choose to give comes from within. And so if you do not love yourself, you cannot share yourself, your love with another person. Never forget to love yourself first; this enables new experiences of love, new opportunities with love, and a new found strength in love.
L.O.V.E
>>>It’s a Learning process. You have to learn how it is that a person wants to be loved to love them accordingly. Every soul is different. Take the time to appreciate that fact.
>>> It’s to be done Often. Love is not a one day thing. You love today but unlove tomorrow. There is no ‘unlove’. You have to love a person every second, every minute, every hour, every day for it work; just as how you love yourself.
>>>It’s a vow. It’s a promise you make, to share your love. Do not love mediocrely. Love unconditionally.
>>>It’s eagerly. Several times people see this as bad. But have a desire to do something, makes doing it so much easier. You desire to love, to be loved, then it will manifest itself.
“In the end, we wont remember the most beautiful face and body. We’ll remember the most beautiful heart and soul.” –Unknown
Choose Love, Choose to Love, Choose to Love the Lilacs.